Forgiveness

What do you think about forgiveness? We should asked for it or shall we give it? The answer is; the best thing to do is, we give the forgiveness to whomever without waiting for that particular person to asked it from u. With me? Why? hurm, as for me, i think because it's easily lessen our burden to think and think and wait "when he/she is going to asked me to forgive him/her"? kan?? But, i never said that we don't have to ask for it. Haish, kalau dah buat salah, pandai - pandailah mintak maaf kan? ^^

Just imagine, if people easily forgive others, Iraq won't be attack by US and, WTC will still be there. People always said, "I am not a Prophet Muhammad S.A.W, i am not easily forgive," or even worse, "tiada maaf bagimu"...wah2..ayat drama! haha. I was, sometimes said that but after a while and thinking of it, it's no use to keep the grudge. Life is very, very short. So, why should we waste it with hatred and grudge. And now, with all the natural disaster, it's a sign from Allah that the world has come to an end. If 2012 really happens, we left like...erm, one and half year? that's too short kan? (oke, i am scared to think about it. But, no one can predict the judgement day kan? huhu. So, boleh abaikan. Sila banyakkan beramal kepada yang satu kat atas tu ye). So, just spread the love, forgive others and be positive.

I found this when i google through. We can take the good ones;

To experience the life-giving nature of forgiveness, try putting into practice these six steps each time you are hurt by another person.

1. Admit that you have needed forgiveness in the past. We all make mistakes. We’ve all hurt other people in the past. One of the key steps in being able to practice the power of forgiveness is to realize that you have needed forgiveness at some point in your life too. When we are able to humbly admit that we have needed forgiveness from another, we are in a better position to offer forgiveness to someone who has hurt us. 
2. Understand what forgiveness is not. You were wronged. Don’t minimize the offense by pretending it didn’t happen. Granted, if you were hurt accidentally, you only need to show patience. But if you were hurt intentionally, you’ll need to accept that fact and show forgiveness.
3. Realize the difference between forgiveness and trust. One of the most misunderstood aspects of forgiveness is when it is confused with trust. Depending on the nature of the offense, your ability to trust has been deeply compromised. Forgiving somebody does not mean that you need to restore that relationship without changes. Remember that forgiveness can be instant, but trust must be built over a period of time. Realize the difference. While offering forgiveness brings freedom, being wise about trust can protect your heart in the future.
4. Give up your right to get even. Too many people live life keeping score. They keep a mental list of people who have wronged them in the past and live their life looking for opportunities to get even. Forgiveness provides the opportunity to erase the list and to release your heart from the burden of revenge.
5. Choose to respond with kindness. Anyone can respond to evil with evil. But only the strong can respond with good. Kindness breaks the cycle. It can bring freedom to your soul and release your life from the never-ending, downward cycle of responding to evil with evil.
6. Repeat the process as needed. As long as you live your life in relationship with others, you are going to be wronged. Accept the fact that nobody is perfect and be prepared to repeat the process above as needed.

If you are harboring resentment towards another human being because of past hurts, choose to forgive and move on. The harm was their fault. But allowing it to weigh down your life today is yours. Free yourself today by taking the steps to experience the benefits of forgiveness in your life.

p/s: this is not from me. copy from google tau. hehehe. sharing is sexy kan? :p

Oh, I am so lazy to fly now. I am easily get bored. hahhaa. Nak jadi student semula lah. :) . I am still deciding whether to further MBA or Master of Urban Planning. But, my intuition is more to MBA.Eh, i think before i start to write ridiculous things, i better off now. Moreover, I am sleepy but i just ate cheese cake. Adakah ini akan menyebabkan lemak membesar if i go the bed now? huhu. My uniform is going to burst soon! it's soooooooooooooooooooooooo freaking tight now!!!! Every night before i sleep, i intent to go jogging the next morning but then end up, hangat - hangat tahi ayam! hahaha. After subuh prayer, i'll sleep again all the way until my stomach starts to growling. hehehe. Oke, good night friends!

p/s: the italic phrase is in Malay Language. If you don't understand, please use google translate to translate it. Just click the link. ^_-

Panggilan Ilahi

This song was written by my sister in law's cousin. She has been fighting breast cancer for years. And as yesterday, she's back to her creator, ALLAH SWT. Innalillah~~

Firman-Nya : قُلْ إِنَّ صَلاَتِي وَنُسُكِي وَمَحْيَايَ وَمَمَاتِي لِلّهِ رَبِّ الْعَالَمِينَ Yang Bermaksud : “Katakanlah: Sesungguhnya solatku, ibadahku, hidup dan matiku hanyalah untuk Allah, Tuhan semesta alam.” (Al-An’am : 162) 

I can't help myself from thinking about death lately. I dunno why but with those news on someone's death make me think, what if there is no tomorrow for me. Have i prepared for it? I dun think that I'm prepared enough for it. I did my role as daughter and God's servant but i dunno how well i did. If we went for interview, we knew that we didn't do well during interview when the employee rejected us then we'll know how to improve and prepare ourselves for next interview but, with Allah, there will only be 1 interview, and if we are not well prepare, there's no more chance for us to improve. Only pray from the living and our good deeds will help. 

I envy people who died because of disease. That person knows that he/she will be gone soon and can prepare themselves for that. Allah give them the reminder of their death and lovers around i believe they can prepare themselves with the lost later on but for those whose gone in a flash, things will be harder for the left one. *sigh* . Death will come no matter what. Nothing can come in between even health.

I always pray to Almighty that, I will have the chance to have a loving husband and kids before i return to Him. I dunno when is my turn but I do hope, Allah gives me a reminder of my death. I read few blogs that mention about the hints before we die but there's no such things said in the al-Quran (refer from here: http://ilmudanulamak.blogspot.com/2010/06/tanda-tanda-kematian.html). So, what can we do, beramal seolah - olah kita akan mati esok hari.

A little renungan on death...

Renungan tentang kematian 
(from: http://diriw.wordpress.com/2009/02/25/renungan-tentang-kematian/)

Apabila bercerailah nyawa dari badan maka terdengarlah seruan dari langit tiga kali:

• Hai anak Adam, adakah engkau tinggal dunia atau dunia tinggalkan engkau?

• Hai anak Adam, adakah engkau himpun dunia atau dunia himpunkan engkau?

• Hai anak Adam, adakah engkau bunuh dunia atau dunia bunuhkan engkau?

Apabila dihantar ke tempat mandi berserulah suara dari langit tiga kali:

• Hai anak Adam, di manakah badan engkau yang kuat mengapa jadi lemah?

• Hai anak Adam, di manakah lidah engkau yang pitah bercakap mengapa diam?

• hai anak adam di manakah kekasih engkau mengapakah jadi mulia rakan engkau?

Apabila dibawa ke atas kain kapan maka menerjah suara dari langit tiga kali:

• Hai anak Adam, engkau herjalan kepada perjalan yang jauh dengan tidak berbekal?

• Hai anak Adam, engkau keluar dari rumah tiada akan engkau kembali selama-lamanya?

• Hai anak Adam, engkau tinggal segala kenderaan maka tiada engkau kenderai selama-lamanya? dan engkau berpindah kepada negeri yang huru hara!

Apabila manyat dibawa di atas perusung (keranda) maka menyerulah suara dari langit tiga kali:

• Hai anak Adam amat beruntunglah (bahagialah) kamu jika kamu menjadi seorang yang bertaubat.

• Hai anak Adam amat beruntunglah (bahagialah) kamu jika amal mu baik.

• Hai anak Adam amat beruntuglah (bahagialah) kamu jika sahabat mu dalam keredaan Allah – dan amat rugilah (celakalah) kamu jika sahabat mu orang yang dimurkai Allah.

Apabila mayat diletakkan untuk disembahyangkan maka menyerulah suara dari langit tiga kali:

• Wahai anak Adam segala amal mu yang telah kamu lakukan akan kamu lihat.

• Wahai anak Adam, jika amal mu itu baik kamu akan lihat baik.

• Wahai anak Adam, jika amal mu itu buruk maka kamu kan lihat buruk.

Imam Annas bin Malik Radziyallah Anhu berkata, bahawa bumi setiap hari berkata:

• Wahai anak Adam, kamu berjalan di atas ku, kamu akan kembali ke dalam perut ku (kubur).

• Hai anak Adam, kamu berbuat maksiat dan dosa di atas ku, dan kamu akan disiksa di dalam perut ku (kubur).

• Kamu bergurau di atas ku, dan kamu akan menangis di dalam perut ku (kubur).

Wallahualam

Hijab in Islam

 Seeing girls these days, pakai tudung with high sanggul looks style sometimes and looks weird the other time. Huhu. Well...,i'm not that good in this and I'm not that perfect in the aurat aspect. I kutip all the knowledge to be a good muslimah one day. Amin~~ ^^. 

Hadith - Sahih Muslim, Narrated Abu Hurayrah r.a

Allah's Apostle said:
There are two types, amongst the denizens of Hell, I have yet not seen them. One possessing whips like the tail of an ox and they flog people with them. (The second one) the women who would be naked in spite of their being dressed, who are seduced (to wrong paths) and seduce others with their hair high like humps. These women would not get into Jannah and they would not perceive the odour of Paradise, although its fragrance can be perceived from such and such distance (from great distance).

Women should not put all her hair up on the top of her haid like a camel hump. She may put it up at home as long as some hair lays on her neck still, but not when leaving the house in hijab where the hump can be seen to be under the hijab and drawing attention to her hair. 

(taken from : http://youngestofthemall.blogspot.com/2010/04/tinggikan-sanggul-dalam-hijab.html )

So friends, turunkan sikit sanggul tu eh. U still can look style in other way.